Born to See

People ask me what I do for a living, and I always brace myself for the reaction. I’ll smile and say real casual, "I feel and see energy around people, and I help them with grief.” And without fail, they look at me like I just told them I wrestle raccoons as a competitive sport. Like “You do WHAT?”

Meanwhile, I’m standing there in my hoodie with a coffee stain on it, dry shampoo holding yesterday’s hair together, and concealer quietly doing its job under my eyes. And I’m silently congratulating myself because my kids made it to school on time. (Knock on wood, because I’m late to almost everything else in life.)

This ability didn’t just show up one random day. It didn’t arrive after grief, and it didn’t come because of trauma. It started way back...like three years old back.

I’d be sitting there, tiny little me with snacks and toys, and suddenly I’d point beside me and say, “Ewe… he smells like poo-poo. The poo-poo man is standing right there.”

Ah…I know how it sounds. Straight out of a horror movie. But it was just normal to me. I didn’t know words like “spirit,” or “energy."

My poor parents... I’m pretty sure they aged ten years that day. And the wild part is I described that man perfectly and later my folks found out a man with the same description use to live in that house.

As I grew, I learned that this gift wasn’t something to fear...it was something meant to help. Something meant to guide. Something meant to bring comfort to people who were carrying the kind of grief you can feel in your bones.

And now, all these years later, I get to sit with people in their hardest moments and show them that love doesn’t disappear - it just changes form. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that life will hand you grief, love, joy, chaos, and everything in between… usually all at once. But even in the hardest moments, there’s always something worth holding onto. Sometimes it’s a sign, sometimes it’s a memory, and sometimes it’s just the reminder that you’re still here, still standing, and still capable of healing.

If I can offer anything through what I do, it's don’t be afraid to find light in the strangest places, laugh when life feels heavy, and let yourself notice the love that keeps showing up because it will.